New Adventure

Bean has been sick…should I go back to December 2008. A co-worker mentioned that my kids don’t get sick…that I never seem to take a sick day because of my kids…talk about a kinahurra. First was Bean on December 30th – 102.5 fever and croup! By New Years Eve we had sick children…4 sick children!

So they recovered…in time for Bean’s birthday – she turned 5 on January 5th!

And MLK weekend happened…it was supposed to have her birthday party the morning of the 18th. We had spent a lovely Shabbat at the M&M R’s and a lovely lunch at L&M R’s – Sunday we got up to make a cake for the party. 30 minutes into it Bean started vomiting – she perched herself on the couch – and we had to postpone her party…we decided to wait two weeks, and re-schedule it for February 1st. Bob got the bug on the 19th – and was able to stay home at watch the inauguration on the 20th…Puppy got it on Tuesday the 20th – Bean was back to school that day…and on the 21st Belle got it!!

On the 22nd – Bean got 103.5 fever. She said everything hurts. We thought she got the flu! It was the first time in my children’s lives that I missed getting them their flu shot. We took her to the ped – wasn’t strep. In-laws were here – we tried to do the normal stuff – motrin made a trip to the Silver Diner and Air and Space museum doable.

January 28th we took Bean back to the ped – for more blood work. My best friend had her baby on the 31st and we planned to go to NJ for the bris. February 3rd we were back at ped for more bloodwork…she STILL had a fever!

On February 4th – Bob’s birthday I took Bean with me to get candles for Bob’s birthday at school – walking out of the store Bean fell to the ground, her legs fell out from underneath her…she couldn’t walk.

That afternoon we got the call to have her admitted to Children’s Hospital (during a terrible meeting at work – different story line). We chose to go to Silver Diner with the kids for Bob’s birthday, Bean was doing ok – and it seemed unfair to Bob’s to not celebrate after we went to have her admitted… Mom came down to help.

I spent the first night with Bean in the hospital. Early morning blood draw – beeping machine of the baby next to us. On February 5th Bean had a chest xray, and two separate parts of a bone scan. The bone scan without sedation…first kid in the hospital to do so!!

We were hoping it was “just pneumonia!”

I spent the second night with her at the hospital. I got no sleep that night, but she did. Grammy came to visit at the hospital, and I tried to get a shower…they were broken!!

J brought the kids down to see Bean before Shabbat. They got to spend some time together before mom took them home. I stayed for the optomatrist visit. And then went home to sleep while J stayed with her. We missed Baby B’s bris…sad and overwhelming on many levels.

It was Saturday, February 7th and Bean walked for the first time in days!! I stayed with her that night.

Grammy came down to be with her on Sunday. And slept over. It was the first time in a while J and I got to be with the other kids together.

Monday the 8th Bean had an MRI….and Grammy had to go back to NY.

Tuesday, February 9th Infectious Disease says they are done with her – on to Reumatology!

Wednesday, February 10th J brought all the kids for dinner at the hosptal. Bean was feeling a bit better. It was nice to be together!!

By Ferbruary 11th we were giving been 5 doses of oral liquid meds a day. She was hurling thing and going crazy. Not the easiest of patients.

And then we had to cancel our trip to California for cousin R’s bat mitzvah. I wrote that day: “overwhelmed by the irony missing last year’s pres weekend flight for snow- and this year for fever (thought it is 65)…this weekend doesn’t have good luck!”

That day Bean said she was done watching tv! Ever heard of such a thing?!?

Belle lost her first tooth….Bob was her tooth fairy! And I missed the kids Cubs Club performances.

On February 12th I took Bean for her last invasive test. The bone marrow test. We needed to rule out the worst. The kids all came straight from school and played with Bean in the playroom. And then the news came….it was NOT Leukemia!! We were all going home. No diagnosis…but a plan.

February 26th we took Bean for a follow up at Children’s with Dr. J. We were able to start tapering off her prednisone.

May 7th J took Bean back to Children’s with Dr. J. He reported back: “Best…Dr.Appt…EVER!! I posted on Facebook:

It looks like we might be ARTHRITIS FREE!! She is off meds and we don’t need to go back unless symptoms come back!! “Best Dr. Appt EVER is right!”

June 4th Bean complained of her knees “not working.”

June 16th Bean “graduated” from pre-school. I posted on facebook: “got teary eyed at Bean’s graduation…watching her move and shake while dancing…4 months ago I wasn’t sure she would move like this again…thank god for miracles!”

August 4th Bean had 104 fever – I took her into Dr. C – he said we were looking for

“good news like a UTI or ear infection!”

Neither were true, no other symptoms – looked like a repeat fever with unknown origin. It left as fast as it came.

September 21st 1:30am – we returned from a trip to NY, Bean could not climb into her bed. She had a 102 fever, couldn’t walk so well. She stayed home the next day with a swollen left knee, & fever. We took her in for blood work on the 22nd, we put her on Naproxen.

September 24th Bean returned to school. The school agreed to take her back even with her fever, knowing that she wasn’t contagious. But not only did she have a fever, and a swollen knee – her fingers hurt and 6 of them were swollen. They didn’t even look like they belonged on her hands.

October 5th Bean continued to have a fever of 100.2 she was down 4lbs, fingers & knees are hurting…sed rate is up to 80… we were STILL praying the naproxen to starts to work & we could avoid steroids.

October 6th Bean dressed herself and skipped out the door on her own, for the first time in 3 weeks. I posted on facebook:

“There may be a light towards the end of this tunnel…hope the next tunnel is FAR FAR AWAY!”

October 8th I took Bean back to Children’s for more blood work and to be seen by the new rheumatologist, Dr. H.

October 9th Dr. H called to report back on the findings, give us a diagnosis and outline for me the next steps. I posted on facebook:

We got a diagnosis. Systemic juvenile idiopathic arthritis. We pray that Bean is one of the 1/3 of children who will outgrow this debilitating disease….and for the strength to make the best decisions as far as medicine to treat her condition…and for the strength to tolerate her behavior on steroids!!

Bringing a two year old to a movie…Lemonade saves the day!

You read correctly, we made it to see Wall.E — it was brilliant! Just BRILLIANT!

OK – we’ll backtrack. We got home from camp/school at 4:30 – I rushed to put in the salmon and make dinner..but it was too hot and took too long for us to leave at our designated time of 5:15 to make the 5:45 movie. So sandwiches it was – Tuna for Belle, 2 PBJ for Bob, melted cheese for Bean and PBJ for Puppy, throw a PBJ for me too….(no vegi, no fruit) water in the car!

We made it out, and to the movie — using gift coupons that I had received for my birthday at least 3 years ago, if not more- the 5 of us walked in, and I got $1.50 back! (J came on his own and paid, so I don’t even know what that cost!)

Bob held my purse and keys, as we proceeded down the escalator — I held Bean as she is TERRIFIED of them and help Puppy’s hand. We got a BIG bucket of popcorn, 4 small cups and 2 med (you can’t tell me they were medium, they looked like a two litter bottle!) drinks, one lemonade and one diet coke — and we were off.

Poor Puppy thought we were going to shul where they had movie night the week before, on the grass with “Cars” projected — this was a bit different…for a sensory kid, but he was a trouper.

An hour and a bit into the movie — Puppy starts saying Penis! Penis! VERY LOUDLY in a quiet theater…there were only about 20 people total in the theater — but when you are paying $12 a ticket, who wants to be interrupted?!?

He continues, Penis! PENIS! PENIS BOY!! Penis BOY! I PENIS BOY!!! I PENIS BOY!!!

OMG J and I were trying so hard not to laugh, Bob was in stiches and the girls kept looking like he was nuts! Remember now – more than an hour into the movie, NO POPCORN left to distract…no paci in site, and Penis Boy yelling PENIS BOY at the top of his lungs….turn to Lemonade!

Sticky, sweet, sticky – ice cold — did I say sticky? But it distracted good’ol penis boy for enough time to get him to forget! I dont’ think the rest of us ever will.

I found my niche – life of the impromptu!

We just got back from our impromptu picnic/bicycle ride! It was great — but had we planned it and thought about it — again, wouldn’t have happened. J went and got a new pump, and came home and said he wanted to take the kids to ride — but it was lunchtime….

So I pulled out salami, bread, ketchup, mustard (2 kinds), carrots, peppers, ice water & blueberries — add the picnic blanket, camera — 4 bikes, 4 helmets, wipes – plates, napkins, utencils AND BUG SPRAY — and we were off within 14 minutes flat …nope, could not have planned it.

We took two cars, and with gas prices at $4.22 per gallon, we drove the mile to a local elementary school parking lot — put out our spread, and had the entire lot to ourselves for riding.

Amid the raindrops, and sunshower…Bob took of riding as usual, Belle rode for the first time without training wheeles!! Though did take a spill — Bean didn’t love getting wet, but rode for a bit and Puppy was too funny in his three wheeler — and helmet.

I survived, though I HATE the outside, bugs and all — but I feel proud of myself, I think that I did ok…I did it for my kids. Had I had to think about it, and plan it and worry about it, I don’t think I could have pulled it off… I’m so glad we did.

Happy 4th of July!!

Shabbat Playdates O-My!

So it started out as a simple – Bob was going to have a playdate with his best bud form birth JM – well JM has a sister EM who is Bean’s age – so they wanted to play…ok god who will we have for Belle? We call AP and she can come, thank god! So now you are thinking that I am leaving out Puppy….no no! That is when it got crazy…

BSP, my oldest and dearest friend from kindergarten gas been telling me about her friend BR and her husband RR, who have a daughter SR who is going to be at school with Puppy…but they also have a son JR who is 18 months old…BSP herself has SPa who is Puppy age and SPb who is 4 months old (yes, both their names start with S — I’m not the only one to mess this up!) so I invited both families….J was aware of this, but what I forgot to tell him….is that when I thought of who was coming — I invited TG — with her three kids – SG who is Bean’s age, LG who is Puppy’s age and NG who is JR’s age so they could meet too….

Needless to say, the 4 year olds were the loudest – the 2 almost 3 year olds cried the most…and some parents handled the noise better than others…

All in all I had a great time, lovely people — and J chose not to divorce me yet!

My cleaner upper…

I have one! ONE — I guess one out of5 (including J) isn’t bad. I don’t know if she does it for praise, or for attention, or to please — or because she is wired that way…but when a house full of people are coming – I can count on Bean to help bring about some order and neatness to the chaos house of “Central” — thank god for middle children!

Super Sunday!

What a great day! We drove all the way to PA today for a fun filled swim day of family. Aunt J and Uncle R, Cousin J and D, Bubbie, Zaddie, Aunt M from Israel, Grammy and Grandpa, Unc and Lolo, “special Grandma T”– of course Jesse and Keppi the dogs — all met for a wonderful, relaxed day by the pool.

4 generations — much love and more – ration of 2.75 adults per child — much more then we have on any normal day! But to hear Bubbie, my grandma say it was the best day of her life — was awesome! Zaddie even got his feet into the pool — grandma was quite sad, watching all the help he needed to do it, I was too — this strong, brilliant man, dentist, husband, care taker, father to three, grandpa to 9, now great grandpa to 8 has withered… but no matter how we have felt about what has come out of his mouth in the past, we all love him and are there to support both he and grandma…as they have always done for us. I’m so fortunate to have my kids know my grandparents…and love to spend time with them, just like I did…just like they do with my parents…we are all truly blessed.

Middle Child Syndrome

Middle Child Syndrome – I believe in it. Both my parents are middle children, my sister Lolo is a middle child — My friend BP — I’ve watched it, I get it…one of the reasons I wanted 4 children…but I guess there is alway a middle-ish child. In our house Bean is it. I realized that I have yet to bring her up…poor kid!

To describe her…she is like an only child who didn’t get the memo that she was not only one of 4 — but the 3rd to be born. Bean loves attention, craves attetion and will do anything in her power to get it…possitive or negative. She messes with people, especially Puppy, to get them to do things with her, but makest them angry.

She loves adults- and loves to please us….but will tell us something she did wrong, even if it something so low on the do not do list/ or even something that is fine to do, but she decided it wasn’t — she tilts her head to the side, chin down, lip out, puppy dog eyes looking up and an ALMOST tear — saying “I am sorry I _________ mommy, I know you will be mad, I won’t do it again, I love you”

She is also the child, when I am angry at someone else or yelled for any reason — says “mommy I love you” in a shy quiet way.

But come time to take a picture, or stand still, or stop talking – FORGET IT!

She is a sweet, caring, BRILLIANT little girl, who gets people, loves life, loves everyone around her — she deserves the best – my prayer for her is that she accepts it as it comes her way.

Name Game!

When we named our children we thought long and hard about how each name would honor the person they were named after…the way it fit into the exhisting family of names ended up being an afterthought….

The confusion has increased over the years, with drs appts and playdates — but as a side affect it has created posting confustion – as I post I can’t Say J Y A and A when there are two A’s and a husband J — let’s see if this code works for now.

J-h — J — Husband
J-s — Bob — Son
Y-d — Belle — Daughter
A-d — Bean — Daughter
A-s — Puppy — Son

Edit — ok that wasn’t working for me- let’s try nicknames…

A beginning…

Well – this was supposed to be a place just for me — but alas J liked the name too much to waiste it on private thoughts — so it is now public…and not for me:) It’s ok — we needed a place to post things we should remember and highlight about our children. This will be the place. For those of you who know us IRL – you get the name – Bob, Belle, Bean & Puppy… we (E and J) are a loving couple – married for almost 9 years – with 4 beautiful healthy children who come with each of their own challenges. This is our story….